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GENERAL QUESTIONS


How can I get involved in TWNAF?

If you want to become part of the movement by attending the trainings, please contact your country coordinator (by clicking on your country flag on this map on our front page, or on your country page in the menu above).
If you can’t get hold of them there, please email .

Alternatively, if you want to join the team of volunteers developing resources, managing our social media or keeping our global IT sharp, please email .

If you would prefer to donate to us or get involved in another way, please email .

How is the TWNAF structured? Are you a company, a non-profit, or an organisation?

We are first and foremost a movement, which means that we have a flat structure with no centralised head office or leadership. This is critical to our growth (we are active in 95 countries and counting), because it empowers you to pick up the movement and make it your own in your unique culture. We see ourselves as a global team, owrking towards a shared goal. We believe that headquarters are where the trainers are.

We do hold non-profit status in a few countries, but you will need to contact your country coordinator to find out more about your country.

Is TWNAF just a parenting course with useful tips?

Far from it!

We believe that culture is the strongest force we have to deal with, so we use two main tools to bring about culture shifts: trainings, and communities of practice. Our goal is to bring about five main culture shifts:

  1. From a me orientation to an orientation on God / a clear set of absolute norms
  2. From worldly values to Kingdom / morally superior values
  3. From individualism to cummunal thinking
  4. From self love to self-sacrificial love
  5. From apathy and reactive parenting to intentional and empowering parenting

When these cultural shifts happen, people learn a new language and a new approach to life.

While trainings are our main tool for imparting knowledge, deep life change happens through the mentorship relationships that develop after trainings, and in our commuities of practice. Our courses also help you start the process of healing from father and mother wounds you may still be carrying.

It is important to remember that our content has been created with lasting, transformative life change in mind. So while you will find useful imformation in our trainings, the content is designed to help you uncover things that may be holding you back as a parent or a leader, and equip you to step up with clear conviction and passion.

Does TWNAF have any religious affiliation?

TWNAF was born from and is rooted in the Christian tradition, but the epidemic of fatherlessness holds no prejudice. So neither do we.

We have training material for both secular and faith-based communities, and will help any country, community or culture battle the scourge of fatherlessness, regardless of creed or religious beliefs.

TRAINING QUESTIONS


I want to attend a training. Where can I find one near me?

Due to the decentralised nature of TWNAF as a movement, we don’t receive details for most of the trainings that happen around the world on a regular basis.

The best way to find a training is to visit our events page. If we don’t have anything listed near you, you can contact your country coordinator by clicking your country flag on this map, or by checking on your country page in the menu above.
If there aren’t any trainings happening near you, encourage your country coordinator to set one up!

If you can’t get hold of your country coordinator there, please email .

Must I attend the whole training?

We have different types of trainings; some are condensed over a weekend, while others are help one night a week over a period of months. We strongly recommend that you attend the whole training either way, but this is especially true of the condensed trainings. Each day builds on the previous day’s content, so if you miss sessions, not only will you miss out on potentially life-changing content, but you will also skip valuable information that provides context as the training progresses.

We regularly recieve feedback that the trainings completely transformed one or both parents, and their children celebrated the experiece of heaven at home. In our experience, that is most common when people attend the whole training.

Can my son or daughter attend a training with me?

Absolutely! We have heard incredible testimonies from families attending a training together. However, there are a few things you should take into account:

  1. We would only recommend inviting your child to join you if they have the capacity to focus throughout the training, and will find value from being there. We don’t often have people under 18 at our trainings, but if your child is willing to join for a whole training, they are welcome!
  2. Our trainings can be personally challenging and sometimes uncover emotional wounds, so if you are not yet comfortable with that degree of intimacy with your child, you might want to consider carefully before inviting them. That said, it could be a remarkable time of intimacy and growth between you and your child, so it might be worth pushing through the fear and inviting them.
  3. Our trainings do not facilitate a therapeutic reconciliation process between parent and child, so we would advise caution if the relationship between parent and child isn’t healthy and mature.
Will I benefit from your training if I am not yet married, don’t have children, or my children are already out of the house and married?

Without question!

Part of our training covers the character of a real man and how he functions in society, so if you are unmarried this will give you a better foundation for your marriage in the future. And if your children no longer live with you, you will still be able to pass on what you learn to them, their children and your broader community.

As Cassie so often says, The World Needs A Father is almost as much (if not more) about leadership and community development than it is about parenting. And because the issue of fatherlessness affect your whole community, you will learn how you can make a difference in your space whether or not you have children of your own.

Will I benefit from your training if I am divorced, separated or a single parent?

Many people in our global community have been through separation, divorce or are single parents, and attest to how the training helped them analyze where things went wrong, and create a healthy framework for future realationshps. There is also a good chance of finding solidarity and support.

However, we do want to offer a word of caution. If you attend the training before going through a healing process, some of the content might be triggering and bring that trauma to the surface in a raw way.

Part of our training does focus specifically on single mothers, helping them understand what children need in every year of their lives, and providing tools to compensate for the absence of a father in the house.

CONTENT QUESTIONS


I am unemployed because I was retrenched. I struggle to call myself a father because I can no longer provide for my family. Can you help me?

It is important that we do not define fatherhood by our ability to provide. If this were true, disabled men would never be able to consider themselves fathers (which is clearly not the case. Fatherhood is defined by a much wider spectrum of things. In our training, we cover four of them in detail:

  • Moral authority
  • Emotional security
  • Identity
  • Affirmation

Intentionality is another value we ascribe to fatherhood. So even though you may be struggling to provide right now, the more important measure to use is whether you are making the effort to find a new way to provide, even if it takes a while to happen.

Does my role as a father change if I have only girls or only boys? What if I have both?

Your responsibility as a parent does not change, regardless of the gender of your child. However, it is important to affirm their gender identity, so a father should be the primary role model for his son, and a mother for her daughter. But both parents have an important role to play in ensuring that the seasonal needs of the child are met.

Sometimes I get so angry I shout at my 12 year old son, then I feel really bad about it. How do I deal with my anger as a father?

The first question you should ask yourself is, “Why is my child’s behaviour influencing my emotions?” It may be that your authority feels threatened, or their behaviour is stirring insecurities you have tried to cover or aren’t even aware of. Either way, your lack of control is a reflection of a deeper emotional wound in you that you need to identify and deal with.

Secondly, you need to repair the situation with your son. If you are wrong — in why you got angry or how you handled the situation — ask for his forgiveness and for his help to be a better father. You should also build an accountability structure for yourself (such as the Table of Support) to help you recognise when you don’t react appropriately, and how to do better next time.

Even if you are getting angry for a legitimate reason, you still need to remember that emotional outbursts are unhelpful in building a strong relationship with your child. If you feel like you are about to lose your cool, leave the situation and take time to take control of your emotions. Remember, you need to do discipline with your child, not to them. And it is very hard to do discipline with while you are overcome with emotion.

Is it possible for mothers and fathers to switch roles during their respective impact years?

Not at all! We clearly believe (and state in trainings) that fathers and mothers are equal co-conspirators in bringing heaven home, but with distinct roles and responsibilities. As Kevin MacCullough puts it, “We have equity of value but distinction of purpose.” Fathers should become the servant leaders of their families, living by example rather than dictation.

Is your movement not elevating fathers above the mother when you say that mothers must support fathers?

Not at all! We clearly believe (and state in trainings) that fathers and mothers are equal co-conspirators in bringing heaven home, but with distinct roles and responsibilities.

Can / should I spank my child?

Spanking is a very contentious issue, and rightly so.

While it appears to be affirmed in the Bible (“spare the rod and spoil the child”), a contextual reading of that scripture affirms the value and need for discipline, but does not imply any need for corporal punishment.

And so far, the research done on spanking seems to unequivocally confirm that no form of corporal punishment creates lasting positive effect, but does lead to statistically relevant negative effects on the child’s emotional and mental development (see more in the links below).

The reality is that if parents live with love and high moral authority, the need for discipline will be minimal. Doing discipline to your child is destructive, so you need to look for ways to do discipline with your child.

Spanking is actually against the law in a number of countries, so we encourage parents (and especially fathers) to carefully consider the consequences of spanking as a disciplinary option. We aren’t going to tell you how you should discipline your child, but we do want to caution you to not ignore the research on this contentious topic. At least read it, and come to your own conclusions. There are two links to well-researched articles on the topic below.


Spanking research link 1

Spanking research link 2

It is not easy to find a mentor in my culture. Do I really need a mentor anyway?

A mentor plays the role of a whole life coach. Because most of our fathers didn’t “teach us life”, a mentor is super valuable to help us navigate life properly and make the best possible life decisions. Our mentors also serve as an accountability structure, helping us to choose the right thing instead of the nice thing.

Choosing a mentor is a serious process, and it is important to consider that the mentor has the same value system as the mentee.

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